FORGIVE AND LET GO
Healing is oftentimes the most long and winding road that we have to take. It’s true that many of us keep secret spots of pain safely buried beneath the surface hoping that they’ll go away someday, or just disappear. Unfortunately, THAT AIN’T THE WAY IT WORKS, Kiddo.
I’ve read somewhere in the book of THE FOUR LEVELS OF HEALING by SHAKTI GAWAIN “In order to do this, we need to look honestly at ourselves, to recognize the areas of unconsciousness in our lives. We must learn how to heal the wounded places within us and nurture our own growth and development.”
So, how do these wounds affect our daily lives? Can’t we just ignore them and be successful as we were all intended to be? Many of us attempt this, but unfortunately, history shows that it doesn’t always work.
Whitney Houston, Janis Joplin, you name it… whether we are referring to a drug-addicted star, and alcoholic celebrity or a rich kid gone bad, all the stories are the same. All of the people here in the universe are astounded when people who “had made it” throw their lives away. These people have actually made it, materialistically and fame-wise but an important part of a puzzle was usually missing. THEY DIDN’T HEAL.
Success starts from within. Success is a feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction without all the baggage that tends to hold us back. All too often, people overlook the importance of healing. We all should know this, our wounds are what make us who we are, how we care for them is what makes us who we will become.
Life is an on-going cycle and spinning sometimes out of control and the best we can do is to give ourselves time to heal. When we are young, things happen to us. We grow depressed because we feel like we’re in the way, not important enough or not worthy enough of someone else’s time. Sometimes, we feel abused, used and neglected by someone we loved so much. Regardless of our type of wounds or our preferred means of healing…THEY NEED TO BE HEALED.
You have to recognize that the past is behind you. I see people nurse their wounds by keeping the fire alive. Dear, the past is already behind you. What happened yesterday may affect today but that doesn’t mean that it will affect you tomorrow. IF SOMEONE DID YOU WRONG, SHAME ON THEM. IF YOU CAN’T PUT IT BEHIND YOU, SHAME ON YOU. Focusing on past pain only presents more pain. The entire premise of this particular idea though, is to realize that the past does not equal the future and that you can bring into your life anything you want.
Forgive. Forgiving is the toughest part of healing. I know, I’ve been there too. To forgive means to let go of the hurtful crutch you’ve been leaning on your whole life through. Forgiving isn’t easy. It’s especially difficult when the person you need to forgive still causing you so much pain. It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about a guy who impregnated you and left you like nothing happened, a negligent father, or a child molester, the same rule still applies. FORGIVE. The real person who is benefitting from your forgiveness is you. When you release that energy by forgiving that person, you free yourself up for higher living.
There’s nothing you can do now to change whatever has happened in the past, except to let it go.
I personally have experienced pain that has been difficult to overcome. The point is, no matter how bad it was, you can make it better immediately by choosing happiness over depression. Forgive and learn from it.
